Thank you guys so much for all of your great advice yesterday on how I can help my oldest through her first heartbreak. It means so much to me that you would take the time to share your stories and words of wisdom. I was lucky to get a lot of great suggestions and I will be using them all. As of right now Regina is still in bed and wouldn’t get up for school. She hasn’t slept in two nights, which is understandable but today I really wanted her to get back into the swing of things. She was somewhat hysterical when I was being stern about waking up though so I let her stay. I’ll be making her go for sure tomorrow because dwelling on this is not going to help her at all. She hasn’t eaten either so today sleep and food are in order.
With her going through this I can’t help but think about the breakup’s in my life. I can think of one time when it was as traumatizing to me as this is to her and coincidentally it was my first love. I wouldn’t classify the pain as the worst but the feeling of rejection and disappointment definitely was. Maybe the first broken heart is always the hardest because we don’t expect it?
I’ve had my share of relationships that have failed and while I’ve been on both ends of the deal none of them have ever felt good. Some took a long tie to get over, others did not. When you are blindsided like she was though I think that will always make it a little harder. Sometimes there are just bad relationships that we know we need to end and they don’t hurt but probably take a long time to wrap up. That was the case for me a few times, especially with my ex-husband. I hated that man for years but couldn’t break away because I was so afraid to and comfortable with being miserable. When I finally did end it (after he assaulted me) I never looked back. You might think ending a 13 year relationship would be hard but it surely wasn’t. I truly hated the man.
How about you, where there some breakup’s that were downright terrible to get over? Where there others that were hard to end but then easy to get over?